Okay here we go. I put things back together and started calibrating again.

Test cube:

A little elephant foot action, some gaps in the top layer.

Then a benchy:

This is the worst side, odd dents, seems like an extrusion/temp issue maybe.

The Mini Torture Test (https://www.thingiverse.com/thing:2975429
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Not great, for comparison here is one from my Anet A8:

Plans: up retraction to 6mm from 4mm AND to move this to a calibration thread. Thank you all for your help!